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WHY DOES MY PARTNER GET SELF-CONSCIOUS WHEN I COMPLIMENT HER?

1) Draw attention to the special things. 2) Be specific about the things you’re impressed by. 3) Stand by her when she’s trying to accomplish something.

HOW TO KNOW AND SHOW YOUR VALUE IN THE DATING WORLD

Rather than focus on the type of man you want in your life, focus on creating the type of relationship you value. Focusing on the man puts emphasis on him. Focusing on creating your relationship puts the emphasis on you.

THE KEY TO BETTER DAY-TO-DAY CONVERSATION WITH YOUR PARTNER

It’s fine to whip out this article when you’re in a boring conversation with your partner, because this technique will help you connect better and more naturally.

SNEAKING ONTO A ROOFTOP PARTY NEW YORK

“I don’t see you on the list. Are you a journalist?”

“Yes, that’s right..I’m a journalist.”

“Oh great, let me just get you a press badge!”

MEN LOVE THE CHASE AND OTHER THINGS THAT DON'T WORK

If you’re dating, single, in a relationship, or already married, you probably know: men love chasing women. Is it because men are naturally competitive? Some evolutionary urge? Outdated courting customs?

THE 5 STAGES YOUR CONSCIOUS RELATIONSHIP WILL GO THROUGH

The perfect relationship is like the perfect partner. It (he, she) is not born or manifested. It’s created, built over time and deliberate effort. Every conscious relationship goes through these 5 stages.

About See The Journey

Dear Lovebirds,

We want to make you three promises right now:

  1. Conscious navigation of your relationship is attainable.
  2. Challenging yourself is rewarding.
  3. Even great relationships can get better.

We are Deborah and Christian Ostmo, and we’re a couple nowhere near our full potential.

Our relationship started with a holiday romance, living something like a fairytale, without any direction. Our early relationship was beautiful, but also filled with plenty of “what if’s” and “what next?”

We needed better methods of planning and communicating.

See The Journey was our couple blog and place of reflection, but over the last few years, it’s developed into tools for you to strengthen your relationship.

Here’s what we’ve discovered:

  • Every relationship has room for improvement.
  • Happiness is a mentality.
  • Your quality of life is dependent on the quality of your relationships.

I’m so excited you’ve found us! Let’s continue this journey together.

Every post you read will be an honest portrayal of real life, and will address one of the four pillars we lay out in our upcoming book, #powercouple: appreciation, connection, vision, and growth.

The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.

- The Notebook

CATCH THE LATEST FROM OUR BLOG

Read on to find helpful tips, inspiring stories, and latest See The Journey updates.

Christian Ostmo complimenting Deborah in her wedding dress in Bro, Sweden

Why Does My Partner Get Self-Conscious When I Compliment Her?

There are 3 men who typically compliment their partners under different circumstances. 2 of them are doing it all wrong. The insecurity Man #1: his

Melaya and Deborah Ostmo smiling in Richmond, London, showing off their value

How to Know and Show Your Value In the Dating World

Rather than focus on the type of man you want in your life, focus on creating the type of relationship you value. What’s the difference?

Deborah and Christian Ostmo having a better conversation in Cyprus

The Key to Better Day-to-Day Conversation With Your Partner

Treat the following tip like a knife and fork, your most basic tool. You may have to be intentional at first about learning how to

Deborah Ostmo with her sister in New York

Sneaking Into a New York Rooftop Party

It's not a secret: doing stupid stuff is a big part of childhood. It helps with self-discovery, the learning process. But why then, do we

Deborah and Christian Ostmo on a beach, dancing in Cyprus

Men Love Chasing and Other Things That Don’t Work

If you’re dating, single, in a relationship, or already married, you probably know: men love chasing women. Not true? A man may have an aversion

Deborah and Christian Ostmo posing on a beach in Thailand

How Being Selfish Can Improve Your Relationship

Have you ever fallen out of love? Ever felt like you lost yourself during a relationship? Dated someone you felt sorry for, before "falling in

5 Signs That He’s the ONE

I want to take a break from all the other posts with titles similar to this one. They typically say something vague and fluffy like,

Deborah and Christian Ostmo get pizza in Italy, while developing their perfect relationship

The 5 Stages Your Conscious Relationship Will Go Through

Maybe you stumbled across this article because you want the perfect relationship. You always get to a certain point, and

Christian Ostmo gave up life in America for his new family

When to Give it Up For Love

I sat with my feet up on a cheap hotel bed. The plastic blankets rubbed up against my legs, back reclined against a wooden head

Deborah and Christian Ostmo in two separate pictures, separated in a long distance relationship

The Key to a Successful Long Distance Relationship

75% of engaged couples describe themselves as having been long distance at some point in their relationship. That might seem like a staggering number, when

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